Do you know who you really are?
You can’t have any self-growth in your life without an element of self-knowledge. Knowing what makes you tick, how your thoughts and feelings come about and how they affect your behavior. Knowing your self, helps you to understand what drives you, it allows you to align yourself to your personal values.
Daniel Kahneman in his book “thinking, fast and slow” points out he still has the same thoughts he had before he began studying human behavior.
Except for some effects that I attribute mostly to age, my intuitive thinking is just as prone to overconfidence, extreme predictions, and the planning fallacy as it was before I made a study of these issues. I have improved only in my ability to recognize situations in which errors are likely….And I have made much more progress in recognizing the errors of others than my own.
The process of self-discovery can be painful. It can be tough to root out all words are thoughts and our emotions. We have to go back we have to stop with the words that come out of our mouths and work backward to the emotions that created them.
Without discovering your true self, you will not be able to realize your full potential. But once you start the step of self-awareness, you will begin to understand why you feel the way you do and how this causes your actions.
It’s essential for you to realize that just because you recognize that this person is you, it doesn’t mean you have to change it. As with everything in life the choice is yours. Having self-acceptance without judgment and without change is possible.
What Are Your Core Values
I would say that working out your core values is the easiest and least painful way to start. It’s only difficult because they are unique to you. You cannot look at anybody else for inspiration or copy their values. They are your individual essence. These values guide your behavior and act as a moral compass.
Unfortunately, most of us are not aware of the things that are really valuable to us. Many of us have built our values around what society wants, or peer pressure wants, what social media wants.
We also inherit values from our culture. We’ve inherited them from our family friends and teachers. Not everybody questions these values.
What are core values and why are they important
Your core values is an eponymous term. They describe things at the very core of you your essence. They are your fundamental beliefs. They help you decide what is right and wrong for you. For instance, if you believe that you are an altruist, you shouldn’t be working in a company or corporation who values only profit.
Examples of core values
Core values are such things as a sense of responsibility, loyalty, compassion, courage, tolerance, reliability, open-mindedness, fairness and many more. Just reading them should give you the idea that these are big ideas.
Unfortunately, you can immediately see how this can be problematic. What you see is compassion and what your best friend sees as compassion could be two very very different things. These core values define you, but compassion may drive you to act in one way. Different interactions may make your best friend react in a completely different way.
The important thing is that we know our core values so they can motivate our life. Our values are the very formation the building blocks of our thoughts. They form an understanding of what we perceive to be the truth about life.
These ideas are then reinforced by feelings and emotions which can turn our perceptions into a passion. This is when the magic happens. This is when we achieve more synchronicity in life, and things flow much easier.
Everything is Energy
Everything is energy, and by committing ourselves to our core values, we emit energy. If you are thinking about loyalty or open-mindedness, then this will, in turn, attract personal success in like-minded people.
You can’t make informed choices without knowing what your core values are. Not understanding what you stand for is what causes a lot of tension and a lot of people’s lives. If we don’t know what’s essential in our life how can we live by those principles?
Most of us have it sometime agonized over the decision we have to make. Usually, this decision is only tricky because we have refused to acknowledge or made any attempt to understand our core values.
Once we have isolated the principles which are important to us, we can start to implement strategies to defend those principles. Once we have aligned ourselves to our core values we find all sorts of opportunities opening up for us.
You may well feel that you don’t receive everything you want in this life. The question is if you don’t uphold your values with 100% conviction then how can you get a 100% return. We have to hold ourselves accountable to our core values.
Accountability is a Core Belief
If you are not accountable, then you will always be almost happy, almost rich almost fulfilled, etc.
On the other hand, if we align ourselves fully to our values than they act like a magnet. They draw people to us with the same value.
We can maintain the high level of our energy because everyone around us has the same energy. Everybody’s energy levels do dip for lots of reasons. We may not be inspired because we are tired. But having people around us with the same energy prevents that dip. These people can help us work together as a team to achieve what we want.
In conclusion, isolating and identifying your core values is the same thing as identifying your passions. It’s about the things that are really important to you. The things that would create great tension in your life if you had to go against them.
This is so much more fulfilling than wasting time and energy on things that really are not important.
“Never let the things that matter to you the most, but the mercy of those people that don’t matter!”
Things can’t just happen to you if you take control and understanding yourself is the first step. Tomorrow I will discuss the ways that you can learn to isolate your core values and make your life easier.