Do you wonder what it would be like to be decisive?
Do You Change Your Mind Too Much? and think this is the destructive habit? There are times when a change of mind is appropriate, but… do you do it too much?
There might be something in that.
Generally, the decision-making process is to review the information at hand and ensure that you are prepared and informed. This allows you to make the right decision, right? That’s the idea. Not all decisions are entirely as cut and dry as that.
When you make a decision, you may find yourself doubting your decision. You second guess yourself, you feel like an unprepared flake, and you worry that people view you as undependable.
We all go through periods of indecisiveness. It’s something that we all do in shades. As in, you may cancel plans because you changed your mind about meeting someone. You could change your mind about your chosen career. Then, you beat yourself up about the change of heart. You did so much work and then went wildly in the opposite direction.
There is no shame in changing your mind. However, the habit of second-guessing yourself is the real problem. So, it is less about indecisiveness and more about your inability to trust your decisions.
You may have heard, about the lizard brain. The reptilian brain that hasn’t changed much in evolution. The amygdala or hypothalamus is the part of the brain that detects in response to threats. It’s the part that reacts fast when you decide whether to fight or flight.
This may have been very handy when faced with a wild animal when hunting when you only had a club in your hand. If this area of your brain is oversensitive, it feels somewhat like being a rabbit in headlights.
Live in the Now
Part of the reason for this is excessive programming, but daily meditation practices can help this tendency. It helps us to live in the “now”!
Richard Davison, the founder of the Centre for healthy minds studied the effects of Meditation on the brain. He concluded that in eight weeks of meditation there were four in the brain that had changed. They were more resilient they bounced back faster when life went pear-shaped. They were more positive and crucially were able to sustain this level of positivity more than the control group who didn’t meditate. People who
Changing You Mind, Is it A Positive
Changing your mind is not always negative. If you have the ability to reassess a situation, knowing that circumstances have changed and changed your decision, that’s a positive. There is a significant difference between being flexible and being indecisive.
Most of us fall somewhere in between flexibility and indecisiveness.
You may look at your habit to change your mind a lot as a frustration. However, it may indicate that you are curious and more aware than others. You aren’t afraid to admit that you made a poor decision and changed course.
What you can’t do is control your impulse to change your mind. It might be a relationship, your career or a course at college. Sticking with it… might be wasting your time and leaving you discontent with life. The ability to admit you were wrong suggests that your character is one of strength. It might just lead you to a place of contentment. You may go back and forth, but aren’t you making more progress than if you were to have stayed standing still?
Worrying about what other people think is often a major reason for people changing their mind. For example, your parents may have an expectation for your life. You might feel as though you’re on the wrong track, but you keep at it because you don’t want to disappoint them.
Sure, they may be disappointed if you were to halt your course and change directions. That will only be temporary, though, at their core, they just want you to be happy. You may worry about letting others down if you chase your dream or skip out on a job.
Your happiness is your own, though. So, you shouldn’t concern yourself with what everyone else will think about your decisions. Only you can make you happy. Everything else is an external influence. If you pay attention to these external influences you will eventually make yourself ill. Happiness is always an internal force
Take responsibility for your own actions
You can’t live your life through others. Sure, they may be disappointed if you were to halt your course and change directions. That will only be temporary, though, at their core, they just want you to be happy. You may worry about letting others down if you chase your dream or skip out on a job.
Your happiness is your own, though. it can only come from within. So, you shouldn’t concern yourself with what everyone else will think about your decisions. They are external and expecting other people to make you happy is futile.
The truth is, not many people have it all worked out and that is okay. Moreover, people probably don’t think as much about your decisions as you’ve convinced yourself they do. Don’t ignore your gut. If you have a nagging feeling about a decision, it’s not too late to make a change even if you are already made the decision.
Don’t be afraid to change your mind, even if you believe you do so too often. Changing your mind is a strength of your character, not a stain on it.
There have been many studies which support the benefits of meditation. Tomorrow I will begin to write about the specifics of meditation.